How much can we ever really know or understand about another person's experience? I was so interested in your quest to understand your mother and how her attachments - and abandonment - shaped her survival stories and behaviour. I've wanted to understand some of my own family dynamics and inheritance - I was surprised to discover that in recent years the nature-nurture debate has evolved from when genes and genomes were first discovered..It's now thought that our genes (nature) might indicate predisposition but our experiences (nurture) can determine if they are activated or not. Everything is so inextricably intertwined. I look forward to reading more of your posts as all the good experiences are in the mix too!
Thanks, Issy! A book called Identical Strangers fascinated me years ago. An adoption agency in New York City separated twins and triplets and didn't let adopting families know of those relationships. As adults, some of these twins and triplets stumbled upon each other. They often dressed alike, had similar haircuts or hairdos, did similar work, married people with the same or similar names and the same with their children's names. So much was nature. The big factor that was nurture seemed to be how sociable they were.
Your posts have really drawn me into the history of your family - and the micro details when it comes to their personalities. There’s so much to think about here, Rita.
How much can we ever really know or understand about another person's experience? I was so interested in your quest to understand your mother and how her attachments - and abandonment - shaped her survival stories and behaviour. I've wanted to understand some of my own family dynamics and inheritance - I was surprised to discover that in recent years the nature-nurture debate has evolved from when genes and genomes were first discovered..It's now thought that our genes (nature) might indicate predisposition but our experiences (nurture) can determine if they are activated or not. Everything is so inextricably intertwined. I look forward to reading more of your posts as all the good experiences are in the mix too!
Thanks, Issy! A book called Identical Strangers fascinated me years ago. An adoption agency in New York City separated twins and triplets and didn't let adopting families know of those relationships. As adults, some of these twins and triplets stumbled upon each other. They often dressed alike, had similar haircuts or hairdos, did similar work, married people with the same or similar names and the same with their children's names. So much was nature. The big factor that was nurture seemed to be how sociable they were.
Your posts have really drawn me into the history of your family - and the micro details when it comes to their personalities. There’s so much to think about here, Rita.
Thanks so much, Emma. I'm so glad to hear it's engaging and maybe food for thought.
Wow! This is all fascinating. Thank you for sharing. ♥️
Thanks so much, Bex. I really appreciate you reading and I'm glad that it's interesting. It wasn't easy to write.